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Why is it that when I call someone on their bullshit, I'M the jerk for not tolerating their BS? Their BS isn't ever really the issue, it's always my reaction to it that's the problem.

God, I hate people sometimes.

Date: 3/27/12 05:27 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] glazomaniac.livejournal.com
i blame dermatologists.

Date: 3/27/12 05:37 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mlknchz.livejournal.com
Shai Hulud blesses your comings and goings...

Date: 3/27/12 05:52 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tdaschel.livejournal.com
whatwhatwhat? you only hate people zumtimes?

i'd call you a bleeding fucking saint !

Date: 3/27/12 06:43 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mlknchz.livejournal.com
nah...hardly a saint. I just don't admit how effing jerky I find most people

Date: 3/28/12 03:21 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] maddogairpirate.livejournal.com
Psychological projection. People don't like admitting they're wrong. It's an uncomfortable feeling, so they push back from it.

It's still bullshit. ;-)

Date: 3/28/12 05:33 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mlknchz.livejournal.com
Intellectually, I recognize that (and ask myself if it's ME that's doing that), but yeah, it's STILL bullshit.
I admit when I'm wrong, why can't other people?

Date: 3/28/12 04:39 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dystempted.livejournal.com
This happens in most of my relationships. I get accused of trying to make the other person feel guilty, when really all I'm doing is pointing out what behavior had upset me. I've learned that a person is either the type that then apologizes, or asks "why are you trying to make me feel bad?"

Well, why did you make me feel bad in the first place?

Date: 3/28/12 05:37 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mlknchz.livejournal.com
Yeah, I'm a big believer in "proximate cause" (but for THIS, nothing else would have followed), so I always try to look for that.
Whenever it boils down to "if YOU hadn't done this, I wouldn't have felt the need to discuss it with you, so the proximate cause was YOUR action", it bugs me when people can't see it.
They usually see it as "What *I* did doesn't matter, YOU should have just tolerated it and gone on your way" which is pretty effing narcissistic

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